It's such a valuable recording because our childhood experiences shape SO MUCH of our adult life.
And the sum of our collective adult experiences shapes so much of the human experience in total.
The culture of what it IS to be human.
Furthermore, since childhood events occur at a time when we may not retain any conscious memory of them, and we don't have much understanding of how to master our perception of reality, the influence of these early events can become a deep part of our unconscious behavior, and the thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, projections and emotions that drive it.
In other words, our lives are often ruled unconsciously by our inner "kids".
In the case of major childhood dysfunction or trauma, big wounds can really "twist" the perception and experience of reality well into adult life, enshrouding the person in a wound-based life.
The person continues to recreate events and experiences that reflect the trauma.
OR they feel like they are being traumatized by anything that resembles elements of the traumatic events.
An unanswered text from a romantic interest can trigger all the pain of childhood abandonment.
A "strange look" from a passerby can trigger the threat of being abused.
A misplaced word, joke or tease, can trigger deep feelings of shame, worthlessness, or unlovability.
A simple mistake at work can feel like an insurmountable catastrophe is approaching.
A pain in the body can lead to anxious obsessing over potential poverty inducing, devastating illnesses, and solitary, angst ridden deaths.
Along with "real life" manifestations of broken relationships, conflicts, calamities, and illnesses, these kind of triggering sensitivities indicate the charge of an unhealed wound.
COPING VS HEALING
Since we roll through childhood with very little understanding of how the events of our lives affect our psychological zeigeist, we have few resources to "heal our wounds" as kids.
Instead, in order to survive the often overwhelming experiences of childhood dysfunctions and trauma, we come up with coping mechanisms.
The primary difference between coping and healing, is that a coping mechanism is designed to CONTROL THE CHARGE of a wound, as opposed to DISPERSING THE CHARGE, which is what occurs with healing.
Coping mechanisms work AROUND the memories, and emotions, of a wound, while healing tends to GO INTO its core to release it.
Coping mechanisms tend to have us "doing the best we can with what we've got", i.e. operating the best we can, while still living UNDER THE INFLUENCE of the wound.
We might be able to operate temporarily in a more functional fashion with a coping mechanism, but the wound can still be consciously or unconsciously controlling our perception and experience of reality.
It continuously affects our being; our thoughts, feelings, emotions, reactions, perceptions, choices and behavior.
What we can create and manifest in our lives.
How we experience our bodies.
What we pass down to our children.
Even our sense of "spirituality" and metaphysics can be distorted by the wound.
Healing helps us MOVE BEYOND the wound so it is no longer influential in any way.
Our internal states (thoughts, feelings, beliefs), and external reality (life, job, relationships) are undistorted by the torqued filters of the wound.
We are mentally, emotionally, physically and energetically FREE of the wound AND of the often compulsive nature of the coping mechanisms itself.
Because our coping mechanisms can cover a vast array of human behaviors BOTH "good" and "bad", it can be a challenge to perceive where the controlling nature of the coping mechanism is actually limiting our experience as much, if not more, than the original wound itself.
When a childhood bullying experience at school (wound) causes a person to isolate off from social interaction in adulthood (coping mechanism), the wound AND the coping mechanism is "owning" that persons experience.
And the "safety" of the coping mechanism, could be robbing that person of years of joy-filled, supportive and rewarding relationships with others.
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