Thursday, June 28 2018
In my last message, I went through a number of coping mechanisms.
Something that was developed at a very early age to "survive" in the original tribe of the family.
Additionally, when there is trauma, coping mechanisms may be developed to manage overwhelming emotions.
Powerful emotions that feel destructive to the very sense of self.
So, somewhere deep in the psyche, what might seem like a "harmless" or even "good" or "perfect" behavior, there is the wiring that says, "I will DIE without this."
This is why great care, and a commitment to gentle, step by step progress, is a cornerstone of unraveling both "positive" and "negative" coping mechanisms, and bringing true healing.
It's why we DON'T start, by trying to "get rid of" the coping mechanism.
That would only "demonize" the part of us that is actually trying to keep us safe.
The part of us that came up with this "solution", with the best available resources at the time.
And, because that part of us is trying to protect us, it's going to be more resistant, and defensive, if it feels its role is being threatened in any way.
And more likely to "act out".
Prematurely forcing yourself to STOP coping behavior only ramps up inner conflict, which is NOT an optimal way to heal.
In my next message, I'm going to outline how true healing happens, and you can move BEYOND THE WOUND, once and for all.
Georgia and The Circle of Light
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